Here’s the thing: most people think losing weight will bring them confidence and make them feel good about themselves.
Sure it can, but what happens when someone reaches their goal weight and still feels terrible?
They didn’t practice confidence FIRST.
I said it: confidence is a practice, not an end goal.
Most people have this backwards, they’re waiting for the next 10 lbs down, the next outfit, for the boy to like them.
But you and I know the deal. When confidence comes first, the body comes, the boy comes, the outfits look good, the job happens, the good FEELINGS about yourself come.
I didn’t get ANYTHING I wanted from life until I flipped the switch and stopped waiting for that self-esteem to come. ( + we DIVE into this right here: flipping the switch for a good mindset)
What will make me feel like I’m killing it?
Sometimes it’s ordering champagne on a random Tuesday. Sometimes it’s eating a salad for lunch because that’s what makes me feel confident. Sometimes it’s eating waffle fries cause they’re good for the soul. Running makes me feel like I did something hard that day. Sometimes it’s dressing differently than normal because I love how an outfit looks.
Surround yourself with winners.
If you let insecure people surround you all the time, their thoughts become yours. The friends who constantly put down how they look, the lazies, the people who aren’t ambitious, the people who eat like garbage but then spend the day talking about how “bad” they were, the people who don’t make YOU feel good. Their thoughts become yours.
Think about the winners you have access to – the people who carry themselves the way YOU want to. How do they talk about themselves? How do they eat? How do they indulge? What can you learn? PS: the people we admire have qualities WE ALREADY HAVE… you just have to act like it.
Noticing those people who are winning at life (confidence, great self-esteem, generous, happy) was a huge step for me. Some are in my family, some are my best friends, mentors, boyfriend, and my clients. Spend MORE time with them.
Think about that girl you WANT to become, the one with all the confidence… and then break down what she does in a day.
Don’t say “oh yeah, she eats healthy and works out and looks pretty and blah blah blah.”
Get specific. What are her favorite outfits? ONLY wear those. What does she like eating for breakfast? Eat that. How does she do her makeup? Go for it. How does she talk to people? Speak it. What does she like to do when life sucks? Let yourself do that.
My point is, being the person you want to be takes practice. You don’t just become that girl, you practice it every day and you get there every time.
So carry yourself like a boss this week and don’t worry about the rest. Nobody has it together because it’s all practice.
If you’re fired up and ready for the next step, you’ll probably want to eat like a boss too.
Eat my favorite meals with me this week and add whatever you want to them – it’s your life and I’m just here to help you feel good.
XO – Lupe
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