Hi you beautiful angels.
It’s my 23rd birthday today and I have NO idea where the time went this year.
I’ve been feeling SO overwhelmed lately with amazing and not so amazing events one right after another, so it’s important to me that I reflect before turning another year. I hope any pieces of wisdom I learned this year will help you like they helped me.
I’ve had what some might call a successful year, and also a scary year. Between my last birthday and today, some crazy sh*t has happened, and I’ve noticed one pattern among all of it.
This past year, I quit my job and started my own business… with no business background. I took myself to California with someone I’d never met in person before. I became a published author of 2 (soon to be 3) Ebooks and one of them is for the very same company that helped me start my business in the first place… Bossbabe. I was mentored by one of my own role models, Dr. Danielle Canty. I lost over 17 lbs, I coached thousands of people on THEIR own weight loss journeys and saw transformations I can never forget.
I started this website and did something other health coaches might be afraid to do… I made health coaching available for less than $20 a month – FULLY believing that over time, this website will help MORE girls be healthy in an affordable way – more girls than I could ever help by JUST doing 1:1 health coaching.
I’m moving into my new apartment – today – in Hoboken, NJ and am about to spend the summer eating all the vegan food and being close to my best friends, my boyfriend, and many of my incredible clients.
Some scary things have been a part of all this. Quitting my first real job was terrifying. Putting myself out there every day, talking to a camera thinking nobody would give a sh*t, and making videos gave me literal anxiety. I had some energy & stress issues at times because I was doing too much and worrying about too much. And one thing was the scariest of all: I was uncomfortable every step of the way. Fun? Yes. Rewarding? HELL yes. But I have been so far out of my comfort zone this year, I can’t imagine going back.
The reason I’m sharing this with you is because last year, I wished for EVERY. SINGLE. THING…that I have right now.
I was dying for a business of my own but was scared that I wasn’t experienced enough. I was dying to lose weight but didn’t think I could lose more than 5 lbs. I was dying to feel free, make my own schedule, have even MORE confidence, move to the city, and be an author along with my coaching.
The things we want are terrifying to us because we’re scared of not having them. We’re scared to lose weight because what if we fail and look like an idiot? We’re scared to put ourselves out there because what if people don’t like it? We’re scared to do what we love because what if it doesn’t pay the bills?
But the things that happen when we don’t settle are beyond what you can imagine. It’s not a bad thing to be in a body, job, relationship, or mindset you’re not happy in. ALL of us have things we want to move away from, and things we want instead. What IS bad is when you think you deserve to stay unhappy right where you are. We cripple ourselves with fear and that fear can block us from getting what we want, or even TRYING to get it in the first place.
If there’s one thing I learned this year, it’s to trust my gut when it’s telling me to stop settling. Trust when you need to get uncomfortable. I’ve been uncomfortable all year and it’s brought me to literally everything I asked for this time last year, and more. If you’re scared to lose weight, eat healthy anyway. If you’re scared to ask for the relationship you deserve, be the person who attracts your dream person anyway. If you’re scared to change jobs, or start that business, do something today that will get you closer anyway.
I don’t know what will happen this year, but I’m asking for it ALL. I’m not settling, I’m saying “no” to everything that doesn’t fully light me up, saying “yes” to everything that does, putting my energy into this website and to my VIP girls who deserve to love who they are and what their lifestyle looks like. I know I’m going to be uncomfortable again, so why not embrace it and keep putting myself out there? If this year brings me anything like the one I just had, I’m going for it at full speed.
I hope you do the same, and I hope something I learned this year helps you on whatever your own journey looks like. Cheers to 23!